People don’t realize this, but relationship is like an exam that you need to prepare for before you fall in love. Some fail because they didn’t put in the prep work and others cheat and seem to pass only to be caught before long. Some don’t even bother to play the game, but we will keep those ones in prayers.
Here are five things to do before you fall in love so that you do not eat premium breakfast (you are welcome):
Love Yourself
As our mothers will say (or is it our pastors), you can’t give what you don’t have. If you don’t love yourself, you simply cannot love another person. Before you fall in love, you need to love yourself first,You cannot even accept love that others shower you with. If you are the type that used to say “stop whining me” when someone tells you you are beautiful, check yourself.
Learn to Listen
A lot of people don’t realize that they have to learn to listen first before speaking. With some people, even as you’re still talking, their mouths are already half open, ready to speak immediately you’re done.
Learning to listen is first and foremost of benefit to you. It can save you a lot of heartache as you will be able to pick up on the clues people drop about who they are and what they believe in very early on in the relationship. Don’t be one of those “ah, you have changed” people. Truth is, you will always see signs of what people will become from the onset.
Have Money
It might seem silly but please don’t be anybody’s burden. The truth is respect, which is very important with a relationship, stems from being independent, and in some cases, dependable. Rich people are prettier, less petty and less insecurely. Besides, when you’re broke, you’re less likely to settle for something which you would ultimately come to regret.
Shun Perfection
There is no ideal partner for you. Oga, your partner must not have big breast. Madam, he must not be 7 ft 15. The problem with ideal partners is you wouldn’t know them, even if they hit you in the face. Don’t be swayed by look or certain fetishized qualities that you think you’d like in a person. You might just find after a while that those don’t interest you anymore. Instead be openminded, you might just find the love of your life.
Love Ain’t Enough, Know This and Know Peace
Come to terms with the fact that love is not enough. Forget that lie that love solves everything. The truth is love is if people remain in a relationship for a very long time, it is not entirely because they are in love. Go and ask your parents. It’s all the other elements running in the background that keep that relationship going.
What else should someone do before falling in love, comment below
Also, check out our thoughts on Valentine’s Day here.
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