John was a student at the University when he began a relationship with a married man. While this relationship might seem like a big deal to our readers, to him, it wasn’t all that.
He shares:
When and how did the relationship start?
I was in 200 level and just turned 18 thirteen days before we met on Grindr. We talked the whole day and were ready to meet that same day. We met at Best Western in Benin City. The sex was good; the best I’d had at the time TBH. The relationship didn’t officially start until about 6 months though after we’d been regularly f*cking
How long was it for?
It lasted all of 3 years, from 2017 to 2020.
What were the high points?
There was travelling and regular cash. Also, that is how I got my second iPhone and laptop. The sex was also really satisfying until it wasn’t. I found that I could get more somewhere else, LoL
Was your partner aware you were getting it somewhere else?
Yeah, he was. Whenever we weren’t in the same state, we kinda agreed that we could mess around with other people. I was in uni and young, I wasn’t trying to let all those fine boys in school pass me by because of a relationship with a married man. He was also a whore so there was that. Imagine I didn’t do stuff with other people, I would’ve missed out on a lot of experiences that I share with my friends. It’s all part of my story TBH.
What was your expectation going into it?
Zero expectations really. It wasn’t my first or second or even third relationship but it was the most significant. I didn’t expect anything maybe that’s why I never really gave a f*ck
Where did the relationship happen?
Benin, Lagos, Port Harcourt, Asaba, little of Abuja, Warri, Ogbomoso, Ilorin
Do you still have a relationship with him?
yeah, I do. We still talk and had sex in December
What were your fears during the relationship?
His wife poring me acid, I’m just kidding, I had no fears since I wasn’t all in
Why weren’t you all in?
I wasn’t all in because he was married and I knew he was sleeping with other people. Maybe deep down I knew nothing would come of the entire relationship so there was no need for me to put my eggs in one basket. He used to say stuff like us running away together but that sh*t never made sense to me or even made me feel like going all in. I knew it was for the meantime and I tried my best to enjoy it while it lasted. When it was time to call it off, it took me months before I finally did
Why did it end?
He was really stubborn and never really apologized. That’s the reason I give but to be honest, I think it was just time for it to die.
Do you have any regrets about being in a relationship with a married man?
Yes. I wish I was more evil TBH. I wish I took more than I did. There were times when I never asked for stuff and I think he took that as a sign to give me little. When I started asking, he took time to give. He still hasn’t given me the 100k he promised on my birthday before we broke up. I wish I was receptive and asked for a lot more than I did.
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